Are you burnt out? Or knocked out?

Are you burnt out?
Burning the candle at both ends? 
Or are you completely knocked out by illness or injury?

The days go by, and you feel a bit stuck in fixed routines and ingrained habits. 
The situation is difficult, this is not what you wanted. This was not what you pictured your life to be.

We know that it takes more than positive thinking and just getting your act together. 
You are probably told this every day! Damn it, I was so tired of hearing people giving such advice!

It is light in the tunnel

To get to the place you want in life, it's about ALL of you!
Yes, all of you! 
So many things affect how you feel. And you are composed of several parts.

When you are having a tough and tiring time in a situation you are in, you will not get rid of it, if you do not know what you really want.
What is your goal, your vision in life? 

Do you have a goal? A goal that is YOUR goal?
Your innermost, heartfelt desire, which warms your heart
when you think about it.

What you may at this moment feel is far beyond your reach, completely unattainable in your current situation, what you hardly dare to dream of.

You might think; it is completely hopeless.

Now I must first get back on my feet, get my energy back. I can't bear to think about fantasies and dreams. I just want to get my life back.

You can get your life back, it is possible! No matter how tough things are. 
But if you want a different result, you cannot continue as you previously did.
ALL of you and everything you are will once again be filled with joy and energy.

Decide to start the journey - one step at a time. For you, with you, ALL of you! 
Don't think about eating the whole elephant in one go. 

This is not about me, but perhaps you will see that I can put myself into your situation, how you feel and understand you more easily,
when I tell a little bit of my story. 

My life felt completely destroyed and I was very low. Not only was I physically destroyed, but also psychologically. To be in that place was very painful.

It wasn't me, I had a very poor mental health as well as invisible physical injuries.

It was a painful and difficult situation and a bad combination.
I looked healthy on the outside.

I didn't really expect much understanding. How should others figure out how to handle my case when I didn't know how to deal with it myself?

After the accident/injury, a journey began for me, because I quickly realized that self-pity was my biggest enemy. It only dragged me further into the darkness. To get back on track in life, I had to turn it around, I couldn't pass the responsibility on to others.

I could get enough drugs to take away the pain, I could have laid down and hoped for the best. But I defied the experts' "advice" and have thought a lot about how life would have been today if I had put my future into their hands.

It felt impossible, but it was not. “The impossible would just take a little longer.” 
I burned that into my mind, it became my mantra.

I tried a lot of different approaches and there is a lot of inspiration out there. 
Many small courses, inspiration both here and there, I swallowed EVERYTHING and hoped for the best. I was lifted, I also fell back, there were no sign of any lasting results.

Motivation does not work if it doesn’t come from within. From a place without too many "weeds". Where inspiration can take hold and grow firmly.

I was strong in many ways, and I was so obsessed that I did NOT want to accept my situation. I wanted more out of life. I wanted to feel self-worth. There had to be a reason why I survived, I told myself. Of course, yes, I also touched in on the thought; maybe it would have been best for everyone if I wasn't here anymore. 
I was searching for the meaning of life.

For me, it was hard to feel so useless. I felt that I did not give the value I wanted to my children, to other close relationships or in society. 

I'm telling you this because I don't want you to give up.

I want you to get back the spark, the joy and the energy. To feel you have a worthy life.

You must do the work, because it's all about you! 
That is your most important job now. Take care of your overall health.
Not just the body, but also your mentality. 
But as I mentioned above. You cannot expect change and improvement in your situation if you continue the same way. Nothing goes away by itself.

You have to work on how to remove what prevents you from doing what needs to be done, clear the "weeds". 

It can feel uncertain, uncomfortable, discouraging. The little things that feels safe, you can't cling to them. You have to decide, know how much it will cost to stay where you are. Get to know what value there is for you to get where you want to go. And just go for it.

You can get what you want, if you want it enough!

For me it was so painful to feel like that, I absolutely wanted to move on. Now I have been taught methods that make me adapt my life to me, instead of struggling to adapt to the life that was filled with fixed frames and boxes, where I didn’t fit in.

Life is good again. I am of use, worthy. I still have my invisible flaws, but I have become mentally stronger. I know how to deal with challenges at the present and those that will be showing up in the future.

I have really gotten to know myself. You'd think I would know this as I was approaching 50, but I didn’t.

Contact me when you are ready for a conversation. 
Completely non-binding, of course. And I have a duty of confidentiality.
My wish is to be able to contribute so that you get lasting progress and results. The opportunities are waiting for you, but you must have the will to do something about it!.

Joyful Greetings from Tonje